New beginnings so let’s get started, straight to it. First though Congratulations, thank you and welcome. You are here reading this because you have made yet another conscious decision to continue starting out on your own journey or pathway to a more successful and fulfilling future. You are looking for new beginnings so Let’s get started.
We are all unique and our personal circumstances are all different, there is no ‘One size fits all’ when it comes to choosing how you want to change your life. Hopefully by the time you have read to the end you will have a better idea of how you would like to start out. New beginnings are just that, a fresh start.
Like I said, we are all different and how we ended up deciding to make a change in our lives will have come from many reasons and circumstances. The one common denominator that does connect all of us is that we want to make changes and however you start, doesn’t matter. The good news is that there is a huge amount of information, media and help out there that is available to all of us and hopefully as we grow this site together all the resources out there will be available to you in one place.
Coming from a bad place
So for me my life had been turned upside down. I was used to working as many hours a week as I could, sometimes doing extra days so I might not have a day off for 2 or 3 weeks. I was up and out of the house by 7.30 and not back until early evening. At least three times a week I would be attending recreational classes after work, which was a way for me to ‘blow off steam’ but it added to an already busy schedule. I also read avidly, sometimes having a handful of books on the go at the same time. So life was full. Within in the space of a few weeks that all changed.
No longer working or entertaining the thought of going out, I was at home 24/7. The children were all at school during the day and my wife was working part-time throughout the week. There was too much ‘Alone time’. Too much time to spend in my head, which wasn’t the best place to be. I drank to numb my mind. I wasn’t sleeping so I drank to sleep. It was a vicious circle, a merry-go-round that wouldn’t stop. After about six weeks I finally had a meeting with a counsellor and things started to change. It wasn’t going to happen overnight but it was going to happen.
Relationships good and bad
Being able to talk to someone who could empathise was a revelation. Describing to a stranger what had happened and what was happening in my life and to have them understand and more importantly describe back to me how I was feeling before I had told them, was pretty much mind blowing. I now realised I had two new relationships being forged, well one was already well and truly cemented, my relationship with alcohol, which was bad. The other was being formed with my counsellor, which was good.
One of the first solutions/remedies/ideas/advice my counsellor gave me was to try and reduce the amount of alcohol I was devouring. His take on a possible way to do this was to look on alcohol as ‘medicine’. For sure, I was using it to self-medicate in one fashion, to help calm the turbulence in my head but I had never looked at it from that perspectivebefore. Now that the seed had been planted we put together a plan to reduce the amount I was consuming on a daily and weekly basis. Basically I was going to be weaning myself off. So, that is what I did. It wasn’t even scary, just made sense. I even started using one of those small medicine cups that has the measure marks down the side. I was actually really excited as I could monitor my progress daily or every few days and this ticked a nice OCD box for me as well. I now had a plan in place, a routine I could follow, something that I could use to pat myself on my back if you like. New beginnings indeed. I might not be able to see light at the end of the tunnel but I knew I was heading in the right direction.
The pathway becomes clearer
Now, there was much more going on at this time than is needed to be put down here but I will fill in the blanks and hopefully answer some of the questions that might arise as I continue to add more at a later date. How much was I drinking. Was I eating? How were the rest of my family coping? What was going on in my head and so forth. I want to try and stay on topic for now.
A plan was in place and it was up to me to adhere to it. Was it easy, no but it was manageable. Were there blips along the way, of course but they were surmountable and I was no longer going to beat myself up about them. You know how it goes, you get knocked down, you get back up again, cliched, I know but true. As we’re into cliches sometimes you have to hit rock bottom before you can start to work your way back up. I now knew in my heart I was headed in the right direction.
The only way is up
So we’ve taken the first tentative steps. A small change for me put me on the pathway Ihave continued to travel upon. Your goal may be different from mine and the journey you take may also be different. The point is, the journey had begun. This will allow us to expand and explore the resources I found that have helped me. There is a vast labyrinth of information out there that touches on all the issues that might have been raised in this post. Alcohol, sleep, stress, anxiety, depression, therapy, diet, health, fitness and many more to be sure. I won’t pretend to have all the answers as your questions will be different from mine but I will try my utmost, with your help, to provide as much guidance and direction as I can.
If you have any questions at this early stage please feel to free to leave a comment. I will always answer.
I write all of this now from a vey different place in my life. If you are still where I was, please rememeber, it does get better. It might not seem possible at the moment but it does.